​Mine said, "Start a YouTube Channel. You know you want to". 
​Alrighty then. 

You are probably aware of horse and dog whispering

Over the years as therapist it has become clear that the happiest and most successful people are those who have positive whispers in their mind.
 
Before we move on, I would like to talk about the power of your mind and how you, yourself, can create success in everything you do. When you are awakening your psychic abilities and intuition or you are beginning a new venture, or life in general, it is important to have positive thoughts and surround yourself with positive energies.

This should be from your surroundings and the people you spend time with. Psychic vampires drain and tire us. If you spend time with miseries you will become one if you’re not careful and aware of yourself. By slightly shifting your thought processes, you can make amazing changes in yourself with just the whispers in your mind.

We mostly have a dialogue going in our mind telling us what we should or shouldn’t be doing, how we can or can’t manage or even why we must or mustn’t be doing something. Negativity in any form feeds on itself and grows more and more powerful as it does so. Positivity also grows with little encouragement, but sometimes it can be elusive if doubts or fears are present.
 
Think of a time when you felt and knew that you looked good: one of those days when all was well and you were fortuitous. Perhaps you were smiled at or someone gave you a compliment that immediately made you feel even better and more confident.

Now remember a time when you felt a bit daggy: bad hair day, squidgy bits day, not getting enough done from the ‘to do’ list or similar. On that day, it is likely someone may have told you that you looked tired or asked you if you were feeling poorly. They might have been that incredibly witty person that said, ‘Cheer up, it might never happen’. Well done if you didn’t growl at them, but even that comment was someone’s attempt to help you or cheer you up.

What then makes one day so good and another so rubbish? Why and how can you feel so different from one to the next? Why isn’t every day perfect and brilliant?
It is because of what happens in your mind. On the good days, your self-esteem is high; your confidence is untouchable and your self-belief is on top form.

On a bad day, your mind whispered to you and it wasn’t good. This can happen even when someone comments on your appearance in a positive complimentary way. We can receive praise repeatedly, but still dismiss it disbelievingly because we know differently or better. The positive person gets it from themselves. You can’t buy it or take a pill for it. It might take a bit of practice but, like any habit, it is attainable by everyone.

Have you ever tried to change something? Like giving up smoking or getting over a phobia, for example? And what happens? Probably not a lot because, again your mind whispers, ‘You can’t!’ So, you don’t.

Those who are successful whisper to themselves that they can do things or change something if it isn’t right. You, no doubt, know people who exude confidence and happiness. And, equally, you probably know those who don’t. They always seem to fail or spend time saying, ‘can’t’ or ‘shouldn’t’.

What are Mind Whispers? They can be that little voice or perhaps that not-so-little voice when it really gets carried away with itself. They may be thoughts, images or feelings. But, however they manifest to you, the first thing to realise is that you have created them based on your knowledge and experience of life. And, therefore, only you can change them. If you are attempting to meditate, see auras or meet a spirit guide, if you whisper that you can’t you will get your wish.

But, please don’t think that just because you haven’t managed something in the past it means that you can’t now, as with a little work and a tweak of your thoughts you can! The easiest way to either make change and/or become positive and successful is to be aware of your own mind whispering. When you have done this, you will find that everything becomes more fluid. You will become more aware of your intuition and inner abilities. Also, your senses will be enhanced.

Imagine now stepping aside from yourself and becoming a casual observer or listener to your thoughts. What are you saying to yourself? Try and drop in on yourself a few times each day and notice the pattern that you follow. Do you like what you hear? Are your whispers those of success?

If they are, that is fantastic: cheers to your achievements. If they aren’t quite what you were hoping for, you can change them.

Every time a bit of negativity or doubt creeps in, spend a moment acknowledging it and then rephrase in the positive. Hear your mind say, ‘I can. I am. I will’. Say to yourself, daily, the moment you wake up, ‘I am successful*, healthy and happy in mind, body and spirit’. Keep saying this until it gets in a loop that plays constantly in your mind.

At the turn of the twentieth century  the pharmacist and psychologist Émile Coué, taught people how to use affirmations and to repeat, ‘Every day, in every way, I’m getting better and better’, morning and night. Try this ‘Couéism’ and notice what happens after just a few days.

When you practice being positive and encourage yourself to live a life of abundance, your subconscious mind will ensure that it happens. And if life knocks you back: get up, dust yourself down and start again.

It can also be revelatory to notice the whispers of others. You can tell by their behaviour and from the things they say. Tiny little comments can have such a profound effect to the good or bad. 

I am not suggesting that you launch an attack or weep a river onto anyone who is negative. My desire is that you only let the positive flow your way and bounce negativity straight back. While you are demonstrating success in your life, which you will as you develop psychically, others might be jealous or try to lower your self-confidence. If you notice that happening, just smile inside and be full of positive light. This light will spread and may even begin to help those miseries.

* Successful is a personal word that means different things to different people . Only you know what it means for you and this is perfect.

I am re-sharing this because just when we thought it was safe to go into the woods turns out it isn't.
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Even though the situation can bring on or aggravate anxieties here are a few ideas that might improve things. Being homebound can bring fabulous opportunities for you to have a go at things you, “do not have time for”.

Top tip - try and be in a routine of getting up, eating, resting, doing, playing and sleeping.

I have spent the last few years mostly at home unless someone takes me out and here is a list of things to do in an attempt to save your sanity if you are not used to 'staying safe’ at home.

https://www.canva.com/ here you can create many things; memes, books, cards. The picture is a Canva made vision board I created to demonstrate

Free pictures you can use for your project/play
https://unsplash.com/
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Take an online course - maybe in a subject completely different to all you know. The following offer free ones:
https://www.futurelearn.com/courses
https://alison.com/courses
https://www.oxfordhomestudy.com/free-online-courses-with-certificates
https://www.ed.ac.uk/studying/online-learning/free-short-courses/free-online-courses
https://www.edx.org/

Drawing and colouring in
https://www.johannabasford.com/happyplace/
https://publicdomainvectors.org/en/free-coloring-book-vector-images

Garden activities
https://gardentherapy.ca/crafty-garden-projects-kids

Free audible stories
https://stories.audible.com/start-listen

Kindle has many free books that will be revealed if you do an Amazon search

Get cooking
https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/howto/guide/25-skills-every-cook-should-know

Think of something and watch a video about it
https://www.youtube.com/
https://vimeo.com/watch

Learn self-hypnosis/meditation/mindfulness 
Book with me - we love self-promo

Call someone
Listen to podcasts - best to just search yourself
Write the book that is in you
Share random things you have discovered or remembered like unusual recipes 
Recommend films, box-sets and books
Start a blog
Get journaling
Keep doodling
​Look for free puzzles online
Read or watch something in a different genre to your usual
Try an exercise you have never done before - health permitting

Develop a self-care routine/ritual - see previous post

Practice the art of Niksen which means to do nothing or, do something with no purpose

Try to have moments of silly and fun

Carers ~ Healers ~ Therapists ~ Medical Personnel
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This was written for therapists but it is appropriate for everyone. Maybe the new title should read ‘self-care for Humans.

Keeping well while being successful as a therapist requires focus in mind, comfort of body, a happy spirit and calm motivation. You need to be good at your discipline as well as marketing, bookkeeping, finances, time and stress management. Sometimes it can be overwhelming.
The world needs you if you have been called to heal but you are of no use if you are not observing self-care. Many carers/healers/therapists/medical personnel quit because of exhaustion and burn out. 

Over the years I have helped many therapists get on, or back on, track and I would love to guide you.
The following tips help me and even though I do have a magic wand your way is the one that will work for you.

Pre-session whether with a client or your own work
Ritual is a good habit to instigate. It sets the scene; literally and metaphorically. Maybe lighting a candle, preparing a glass of iced water or stronger, cartwheels around the garden or completing your asanas is the way.
Whatever works is good but it is not set in stone. I know therapists who are unable to flow without their pre-work routine but it is important to not allow the ritual to rule you. You are in charge of you and it might be that just the intention is all you need. 

Mind
A cluttered mind is not conducive to helping yourself let alone others so the first thing is to clear-out extraneous thoughts. These can present themselves as doubts, niggles, the to-do list and a variety of other issues that seem to do their utmost to prevent clear thinking. Busy getting nowhere is a frustrating loop and the fear of starting a new way of self-care coupled with business minding can be enough to stop everything working.

Doing something repetitive but not too challenging can fire up the healing muse and make her burst forth with glee. Self-hypnosis, meditating, doodling, colouring, nature walks, journaling, gratitudes are all good starts.

Body
Comfort is paramount. If you enter the mind-state of flow, time disappears and before you know it hours have passed. You only ‘come back’ because your neck has locked or you can no longer feel your feet. Or, your bladder is about to explode.
Stretching, walking, massage and swimming are perfect remedies. But, better still is to ensure posture and position are perfect before beginning your care or client work.  

Something seemingly simple like applying hand-cream can trigger body calmness. Try this yourself by applying hand-cream to your hands and continue up to your elbows. Really work your thumbs into those muscles and enjoy the relief as the tingles flutter up to the back of your neck. 

Spirit
Feeling free to be in flow is our spirit’s natural state. We do, however, tend to do all we can to hinder that but when we are in a congruent state of mind, body and spirit our emotions balance. 

When you have finished working either on your care, marketing or with clients it is important to acknowledge your success. It is about enjoying the journey. Sometimes you might feel cross because you think you haven’t done enough. You have. If you get a grump-on with yourself you run the risk of setting up a negative pattern.

Displacement activities are the therapist’s best friend when it comes to marketing.
Again fears because someone once said you shouldn’t charge for your healing work so you feel conflicted. Or, you are nervous about putting yourself 'out there'. This can be helped by setting specific times for self and business management and honouring that.

Success comes from creation rather than reaction. Having a notepad to scribble any disruptive thoughts really helps – this could be the back of the pad kept for creative ideas. If easier you can record your thoughts on your phone. What's that? You don't like the sound of your own voice - well, you don't need to, no-one else will hear it. 

Likewise, the eureka moments, ideas, things to try, people to follow can be noted. I used to flit (still do) but flapping about from one thing to another and not completing tasks ends up causing annoyance and frustration.

Trying to ignore irritations just makes them more persistent but when acknowledged their power diminishes. I have learnt that digital distractions can and do wait. They can be time wasters and creativity drainers but also useful. If you lose yourself in Pinterest or Instagram do not beat yourself up. You are a grown-up and can choose what you do.

You matter.

The picture was from a few years ago taken at Evia, Greece. If I close my eyes I can be there.
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1st September 2019. Pinch punch and all that.
​As the new school year begins so comes my new start. Not in a born again ding dong* kind of way but in an explanatory where the hell have I been and what am I doing kind of way. 

If you have read my blog or articles before you might remember I have had  on-going back problems that resulted in surgery to fuse my sacroiliac joints. Unfortunately the surgeon pushed one of the surgical screws into a lumbar nerve and it has caused a mishmash of issues that include continuous pain, nerve damage with its accompanying nonsense, foot drop, muscle wastage around my ankle and lower leg and sometimes my leg disappears itself. The dodgy grammar stays because it is such a perfect description. 

Life is challenging. After exhausting local pain management services my GP suggested I find a new consultant and start again. I did this and with some creative self-advocacy and charm (fluke) I ended up in the care of the amazing team at Southmead Hospital, Bristol.

​Who are you? What do you do?
Who am I? What do I do?
How do you describe yourself? By your name, role in life or your job? How do we define ourselves? Do we even need to?
There are books written (usually for women) about finding yourself. The strap is something like; daughter, sister, wife, mother… now it’s time to be you.

But, who are you? As the Caterpillar asked Alice.

When I became a hypnotherapist in the early nineties I happily called myself that even though I usually had to follow it with a description or listen to comments like, ‘oh best not look into your eyes,’ or ‘bet you can’t hypnotise me.’ Because that's what people say to hypnotists. Still.
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As my practice grew I added in other things ranging from coaching and speaking to hosting workshops, teaching, to being involved in the more esoteric subjects. Later on I became an author and publisher. So many job titles to list on a business card I decided to bundle them.

Holistic therapist and muse seemed to cover it. Or, so I thought until Jane Alexander wrote, while reviewing my book, ‘she describes herself as ‘a holistic therapist and muse’ which would, under normal circumstances, make me narrow my eyes and pick up my foot.’ Oh! She does go on to say I’m alright but…

Defining what we do can be challenging because what we do defines who we are.
Who we are defines what people think. Of course, it doesn’t matter what people think. Unless they are wrong.

Maybe I asked for it by calling one of my books, The Psychic Way, but assumed (ha, never do that!) that having ‘way’ in the title suggests method/option and that the sub-title would clear up any possible misconceptions; as in Fine-tuning Your Intuition. I’d be wrong then. 

I have lost count of how many times, recently, I have said, “I do not work as a psychic” The reply is mostly, “Oh, but you are psychic aren’t you?”

I then feebly mutter under my breath and change the subject.

Here is the conversation that triggered this musing – I am B and the questioner is D:

D - Is he going to leave me?

B - I don’t know.

D - Of course you know, you’re a psychic. Just tell me. It’s your job.

B - No it isn’t.​

Pain, stress and anxiety attacks affect our breathing. If you get injured or experience an extreme situation the natural inclination is to breathe in sharply and hold your breath.

Over time the stress caused by ongoing pain or anxiety creates an extra state of anxiety which can lead to shallow breathing or fear of slower deeper breathing.

Gently try out these two techniques. Never strain or over-hold.

Counting techniques
1. In your mind, count (see, imagine, sense) backwards from 100, rhythmically in time with your breathing, and relax a little with each number. You might like to say to yourself after each number, 'relax', 'deeper and deeper', 'calm' or a word that you associate with being relaxed. Do this until you lose count or forget where you've got to and can't be bothered to start over.

2. Count to yourself: 1, 2, 3, 1, 2, 3, 1, 2, 3 over and over and try to prevent thoughts nipping in between the numbers. If they do manage to squeeze in, say the numbers quicker so they are closer together. The aim is to only have the numbers in your head with big gaps between them, but it may happen that you forget where you are or forget to remember to count.

With each just practice for a little while. More will follow plus different techniques and modalities for you to try.

Clicking on the image above will take you to Daisy's House where you can get your free breathing mini-lesson.