You can use these techniques to enhance all areas of your life. If you use all your senses while you imagine an experience your body feels it as 'real' and this creates an inner template.
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I sense as much as hear the soporific rhythm of the train. There is only one other person in the carriage. The train picks up speed and he saunters over. His eyes travel down my body and without speaking he kneels in front of me. Slowly he eases my skirt upwards and parts my thighs. I feel his hot breath on my skin and push myself toward him keen to let him taste my desire. My body feels sensual with every cell tingling. He knows how to please me, my perfect paramour.
Several car horns alert me that the traffic lights have turned red. Pause the fantasy. Arriving at work my cheeks are glowing. I feel good, confident and sensual.
Regardless of whether you are seeking to completely revamp your love life, enhance your well-being or just have pleasure using fun-fuelled fantasies it all begins and ends in your mind. We live in a left-brained world (sometimes referred to as the male-side): busy running about from one task to the next working through mental lists, organising, planning, delivering and collecting. This lifestyle can leave us stressed, tired and frazzled with our own desire or pleasure far down our 'to-do' list.
But, if we switch on our right-brain creativity the damaging effects of tensions and stresses are dissolved away. Fantasies engage this often-neglected side of the brain and one of the best things is that you can have them whenever you want. It doesn't matter if you are tired or too grumpy to be sociable you can always switch on your internal bliss. The right brain is 'exercised' when we use our imagination so much so that we can experience physical reactions. You can test this by thinking about cutting a lemon or sucking a pickled onion; are you salivating? This auto-response demonstrates a physical change with just an idea. So sexy thoughts equals sexy feelings and reactions.
This skill enables you to programme in, using your imagination, your desires whether they are to increase your sex drive, enhance your sexuality or to be more confident. When you are fantasising you invoke all your inner resources and your senses heighten. If you become a more sensual being, which isn't unreasonable as sex is life's greatest pleasure (or is that chocolate?) you will exude confidence and self-assuredness. You can become your thoughts so as you imagine you are a sex goddess that is exactly what you are. Some women can orgasm just through their thoughts and all report an increased orgasm-ability when they use sexy imagination exercises.
As there are no fantasy police you are your only hindrance. You may choose to share your thoughts with your partner - act them out even, if you want.
Clients who have shared or enacted tell me things like, "We collapsed in hysterics," or "We got carried away" but the main reply is, "It was the best sex ever!" One of my clients nearly keeled over when I told her to get down and dirty in her head. "I have never done that," she informed me. I told her we were all virgins once. The change in her was astounding, she turned into a sexual diva overnight and all areas in her life are improved.
Try the following fantasy formula: remembering that you can be as pure or as smutty as you like. You can have a/some anonymous lover/s - ooh cheeky - or they can be familiar.
♥ Have a warm bubble bath with exotic delicious perfumes. Ylang ylang with lavender, geranium or patchouli makes a sensual combination. Take your time to relax and dissolve away any stress.
♥ Think about something that makes you feel very sexy. Maybe being admired or secretly watched by someone you lust over.
♥ You can read a sexy story and put yourself in it. Or if you prefer you can let your thoughts do their own thing.
♥ Notice your body and become aware of sensations of pleasure.
♥ If you are masturbating you can drift away and have a never-ending, tireless, undemanding sex god there just for you whenever you want.
♥ If you wish you can experience the whole thing in your mind and just revel in the bliss.
Your mind, your fantasy, and most importantly your pleasure.
At all other times you can fantasise whenever you want - in a bus queue, in a waiting room, traffic jam or meeting. Just be careful if you are in an interview that when they offer you the job you don't reply, "Yes, oh yes."
Welcome to your pleasure zone - where your sparkle will be permanent.
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